Everybody knows sex is important for relationships, but what makes it so impactful in a couple’s long term succcess, and what can you do when there is a mismatch between your partner’s sexual desire and yours?
What are the benefits of having sex?
Healthy, long-term relationships are not build solely on the bases of sex, but for sure it is an important part of romance with multiple benefits both for the relationship and for each of you. Let’s explore some of them:
What are the individual benefits of having sex?
Sex has several benefits for your mental and physical health. On the physical health side, a 5-year study published in 2020 found that adults who had sex 52 times a year (about once per week) were at lower rish of dying of any medical cause, specially of cancer. And another 2020-study published by the European Journal of Preventive Cardiology found people who had sex once per week had about 10% less probabilities of dying of heart diseases.
Similarly, it has also been found to have positive effects in the cognitive health and memory capacity of 60+ year old adults; strengthen the immune system, particularly in the response against COVID-19; and support pain relief through the release of endorphins (something to which any woman going through cramps can testify).
On the mental health side, regular sexual activity has shown to be associated with significantly lower depression rates and better sleep quality for both men and women, and stress reduction support, just has exercise does, thanks to oxytocin release.
What are the benefits for the relationship of having sex?
One of the main benefits of having satisfying, consensual sex is that it fosters the emotional connection between the partners thanks to the release of oxytocin during intimate moments, which helps deepen attachment to one another.
Additionally, having sex regularly can help cultivate effective communication between the two of you by creating a space where you can openly talk about your desires, preferences, and boundaries. Doing so can help you better navigate difficult conversations because you already know you can talk about sensitive topics in a receptive way and without hurting each other.
All the former leads to one of the greatest benefits sex has for relationships: the feeing of intimacy it creates. Intimacy is more than being naked together, but when nudity is paired with good communication, it can open the door to emotional intimacy, a more profound connection and, ultimately, more pleasure.
What can you do if you love your partner but you’re sexually incompatible?
“Being sexual incompatible” may sound like the end of the world but, most of the time, things can be worked out. In the same way we tend to have large and small differences with our partners on multiple topics but we manage to agree on a middle ground (at what time should we eat, where should we live, how ofter should we see each other’s family, etc), we can also find paths to understand what our partner needs and figure out our differences.
Here are some ideas that may become handy when dealing with sexual incompatibility.
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Be open with your partner and share what you need, would like or wouldn’t like, how, and when
Differences are easier to solve if you have a clear idea of what you’re dealing with; so sharing with your partner your needs and wants and listening to theirs will give you the basic information you need to move on. -
Approach the cause of your sexual incompatibility with an open mind
Both parts need to be willing to understand and cooperate with each other. Otherwise, sexual incompatibility will truly hurt the relationship. -
Rule out medical complications or physical reasons causing uncomfort
Sometimes, people don’t feel like having sex not because they don’t desire their partner, but because of some physical or medical complication that is bothering them. At times, a little lube can be the answer to your troubles. -
Let go of the pressure to perform
Sex is already a sensitive topic without feeling like you have to perform a certain way. If you are both able to let go of that feeling, you’ll be more open to exploring. -
Listen to yourself
Observing your feelings and needs can give you a clear compass on what is negotiable and possible options to find a middle ground. For example, if your partner would like to explore bringing a third person to your intimate encounter but you are not comfortable with the idea, you might propose exploring mirror sex as a way to approach their desire without violating what feels like a personal red line.
Enjoying sex with your partner can be deeply nurturing to your relationship. Whether you are going through a period of great sexual connection and enjoyment, or working on solving some sexual incompatibility, Executive Fantasy Hotels will always have its doors open for you to meet with your partner and enjoy an intimate moment together.
